We’ve all heard that old chestnut about how saying yes to one thing is saying no to another, right? Well, I get asked a lot about how I devote so much time to this blog or writing fiction. And the answer is my life is in shambles!
Basically, I say yes to chaos and no to order.
Here’s the deal, fam. You can have a clean house with organized closets or you can follow your dream. And while I love the idea of living in a home that gets vacuumed every single day with a sink that never has dishes sitting in it, I would rather write books.
So if you’ve been laboring under the notion that I have it all together, or that anyone can do it all, you’re mistaken. And to that point, everyone has an area of their life that is an absolute mess.
Maybe it’s their home. Maybe it’s their personal relationships. Maybe it’s their taxes.
No one has it all together.
Sure, they say the way you do one thing is the way you do everything. But that’s a lot of bullshit. And I would bet even money that the person who came up with that saying had someone at home taking care of all the shit they didn’t want to do when they were doing everything else the way they do it.
Behind every ableist productivity hack or minimalist trend of how to work, there’s a person picking up the slack.
But if you don’t have a person to pick up the slack, or you don’t want to foist unnecessary work on your partner, then I bet your life is in shambles too.
I know the “my life is in shambles” meaning most people are looking for is the one where you pretend you’re an absolute fuck up and can’t get anything right. But you’re doing great, sweetie. Seriously. All things considered, you’ve got this.
If you feel like you aren’t a “grown up” or you can’t get anything right, that isn’t necessarily true. I mean, it may be the reality, but it’s not because of some failure on your part. The system just wasn’t designed for you to thrive.
All our lives are in shambles, bro. You’re supposed to be here. The key is to ride the wave.